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Our hope with this podcast is to be a resource and a comfort for straight spouses as we navigate the tremendous life changes that accompany finding out we are married to an LGBT spouse, no matter where we are in our journey. Whether we are in the first throes of shock after discovery or disclosure, or we are 10 years post-divorce, or living in a mixed orientation marriage. We want to create a forum of frank and open discussion so we can talk about difficult, intimate and sometimes controversial topics. We look for community, healing and growth in each other’s stories, as we share our grief, our pain, our recoveries, and our triumphs.

At the SSV Podcast, we have a few simple missions: first, to tell our stories, to each other, and to the world. Second, to help straight spouses heal. We do this by interviewing guests with varying expertise and wisdom to share. And finally, to encourage discussion and insight. We do this by featuring guests with diverse perspectives and experiences, and even controversial views that give rise to strong opinions.

We know not every straight spouse experience is the same, and therefore not every straight spouse will be helped in the same way or by the same resources. That’s why we strive for a diversity of perspectives and topics.

And we know that not every straight spouse will appreciate or be helped by every episode, but we do hope that every straight spouse will find some episodes helpful.

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Oct 16, 2018

In today’s episode, I talk to Sara about the discovery of her husband’s 14 years of infidelity with men, her diagnosis of PTSD related to the relationship betrayal in her marriage, which echoed back to her sexual assault as a teen. We talk about how she found her healing and clarity in nature by hiking, running, and paddle boarding. Sara shares how she has used her experience as the fuel for a new career helping others heal from their own trauma.

In her own words on the compound trauma of sexual assault combined with relationship betrayal: “I was so deeply traumatized, I can’t even put words too it. The PTSD that just shakes every cell within your body is mind numbing… What happens is that when you go through another traumatic experience like this, it also brings up the trauma from the past, which I hadn’t really worked through, I now realized… I realized that it was like ‘Wow, I’ve got to address all this stuff,’ which is exactly what I did, through my own trauma healing, and through nature, and through seeking help and getting the right support.”