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Our hope with this podcast is to be a resource and a comfort for straight spouses as we navigate the tremendous life changes that accompany finding out we are married to an LGBT spouse, no matter where we are in our journey. Whether we are in the first throes of shock after discovery or disclosure, or we are 10 years post-divorce, or living in a mixed orientation marriage. We want to create a forum of frank and open discussion so we can talk about difficult, intimate and sometimes controversial topics. We look for community, healing and growth in each other’s stories, as we share our grief, our pain, our recoveries, and our triumphs.

At the SSV Podcast, we have a few simple missions: first, to tell our stories, to each other, and to the world. Second, to help straight spouses heal. We do this by interviewing guests with varying expertise and wisdom to share. And finally, to encourage discussion and insight. We do this by featuring guests with diverse perspectives and experiences, and even controversial views that give rise to strong opinions.

We know not every straight spouse experience is the same, and therefore not every straight spouse will be helped in the same way or by the same resources. That’s why we strive for a diversity of perspectives and topics.

And we know that not every straight spouse will appreciate or be helped by every episode, but we do hope that every straight spouse will find some episodes helpful.

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Apr 1, 2019

Today Alexis tells us the story of her father coming out to her, and how that experience both helped and complicated when she discovered her own husband was gay. She talks about the challenge of intimacy in her marriage, and how her ex-husband either avoided or deflected discussions on physical intimacy, leading Alexis to “poke the bear” trying to get to the bottom of their sexual troubles. She shares that her husband labeled her a ‘nymphomaniac’ for desiring healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship, and how that impacted her.

In Alexis’s own words: “When my ex came out it was around my birthday. And it wasn’t him coming out to me, he likes to refer to it as me dragging him out of the closet. And it was one of the moments where I poked the bear. I wanted to, honestly, get laid for my birthday present, and I got rejected, and I was done. And I said ‘what’s going on? Are you cheating on me?’ and he said, ‘no,’ and I said ‘Are you asexual?’ and he said, ‘no I’m not asexual,’ and I did the Hail Mary pass and I said, ‘Are you gay?’ and he said, ‘I think I am,’ and that set the stage for the next year of spiraling out of control, and going up and down and I hit sort of a really bad place, and I was suicidal.”