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Our hope with this podcast is to be a resource and a comfort for straight spouses as we navigate the tremendous life changes that accompany finding out we are married to an LGBT spouse, no matter where we are in our journey. Whether we are in the first throes of shock after discovery or disclosure, or we are 10 years post-divorce, or living in a mixed orientation marriage. We want to create a forum of frank and open discussion so we can talk about difficult, intimate and sometimes controversial topics. We look for community, healing and growth in each other’s stories, as we share our grief, our pain, our recoveries, and our triumphs.

At the SSV Podcast, we have a few simple missions: first, to tell our stories, to each other, and to the world. Second, to help straight spouses heal. We do this by interviewing guests with varying expertise and wisdom to share. And finally, to encourage discussion and insight. We do this by featuring guests with diverse perspectives and experiences, and even controversial views that give rise to strong opinions.

We know not every straight spouse experience is the same, and therefore not every straight spouse will be helped in the same way or by the same resources. That’s why we strive for a diversity of perspectives and topics.

And we know that not every straight spouse will appreciate or be helped by every episode, but we do hope that every straight spouse will find some episodes helpful.

We make several feedback options available for all listeners: listeners can comment on the original episode posts on our SSN Facebook page, and they can comment directly on the episode on our website. All comments are moderated for respectfulness, but discussion and feedback are welcome. In addition, we have the podcast@straightspouse.org email address for more direct feedback.

The Voices Podcast is funded by the Straight Spouse Network (SSN), a 501(c)(3) nonprofit that provides support to straight spouses and partners who have discovered that their spouse/partner isn’t straight.
 
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Nov 30, 2019

Today on the show, Executive Director of the Straight Spouse Network Kelly Holliman walks us through strategies and tips for getting through the upcoming holidays post discovery or disclosure that a spouse is LGBT. We talk about creating space for yourself when you need it, establishing new traditions with the kids, and yes, canceling Christmas. Because sometimes, you just can’t even!

 

Kelly also shares her own story of becoming a straight spouse, including when she realized what her relationship was modeling for her children. “That became really important to me that my children were going to think that a good marriage was a roommate situation. I wanted more for my kids.” She also wanted more for herself. “I had all these epiphanies and one of them was that my needs were just important as his needs. So, he may have a need to not have sex… but I have a need to have intimacy, and that’s not less important than his need not to.”